Tony stancl trial

I pray for his family and all the people he has hurt. I hate pedophiles, I hate them more than I hate anything in this world. When I was 3 yeaers old, my mother got tired of being a single mom, and married a guy from our Church who she thought could be a male role model for me, and had a baby with this man 9 months later. As soon as they got back from their honeymoon, he started hitting me and beating me, and she stood there and said nothing, and in no time she became involved in domestic violence herself.

He beat her too, and she accepted this as something she deserved, I feel she is as culpable as he is. This man molested me on and off from the time I was 3 years old, until I was 17, even though he plead guilty and was convicted of sexual assault of a child and several counts of other sex offender nature when I was 14, yet he never served more time in jail than just his initial booking, less than 48 hours.

I am a 40 year old man now, and his abuse has hurt my little brother who is 5 years younger than me, he's my half brother, but this abuser I'll call him JP, when he married my mother he adopted me and gave me his last name as soon as he got their marriage license in , so he is the only father I have ever known.

Like almost all sex offenders I have studied, they marry, don't identify as "homosexual", identify as "straight" men, are active in their community Churches, and are generally regarded as good fathers and role models in the community. I have almost never heard of an "out and proud" gay man who molested kids, especially young boys, they are almost always with few exceptions good financial providers, and regarded as spiritual leaders in more Protestant type Christian Churches, where you don't have to go to seminary to be a church elder or a minister or something.

The damage they do to a child's mind cannot be measured, described, or helped that I know of, I told psychiatrists for years and years that I was ok, there was nothing wrong with me, and went about my life. I thrived in my 20s, had lots of long term relationships with young ladies who each one I hoped I would marry someday. The problem is, one cannot have a 'healthy' adult relationship when you look to your life partner for the love and fulfillment that one is supposed to receive as a child from their parents, and later on from one self, the love you have for yourself more popularly known as "the greatest love of all.

Something a predator learns to be effective at what they do, is to remove a child's boundaries and make them question every ounce of self preservation they have as abnormal or somehow unhealthy, selfish, or harmful to the predator.

This can follow you through the rest of your life, as you don't stand up for yourself in situations which require that you do so, or know how to trust other people when you constantly go from zero boundaries to complete mistrust, never being able to balance between one extreme or the other.

The problems are endless, and sadly in a society which has finally learned to take women seriously who experience domestic violence and rape, there are almost no resources for recovery or treatment for male survivors of this sort of sex abuse.

Now that I will turn 40 in a few months, my abuse causes me more harm and distress than it has in almost 20 years. Between the ages of I tried to commit suicide dozens of times, I cut myself, then later took overdoses which resulted in being in numerous comas, I was dead for all intents and purposes at least 3 times for sure where I had no heart or lung activity and couldn't be revived for a very long time, and 5 times was in a coma for several days after receiving CPR, chest tube, assisted breathing, shocked my heart with the defibrillator, stomach pumped and charcoal poured through my stomach and intestines, followed by psychiatric observation, and then very little psychiatric treatment or follow up.

Often I believe that God intervened, because my plans were so fool proof there is no way anybody should have found me or noticed me missing for several days when I planned these suicides. I went to psychiatrists for years and took all kinds of medications and behavioral treatments, with little to moderate results. I got stronger and stronger in my 20s and early 30s, but then something happened, and it was like I came out of a deep fog.

I didn't realize until I was almost 37 years old just how deeply I was damaged by the sex abuse. I started to have recurring memories, nightmares, sleepwalking, obsessing, relapses of agoraphobia, panic attacks, and depression even while on huge quantities of medications.

I find it strange, but research I have done has opened my eyes to the fact that many people who have PTSD from sex abuse, sometimes don't react emotionally to the abuse until years or decades later in life, when they seem to have gotten all of their other psychiatric and emotional symptoms under control. The police and Child Protective Services were no help at all when I went to them and told them what was happening in my home.

They told me I was lying even though my back was covered with so many bruises, my parents gave me a letter so I wouldn't have to undress and shower, and participate in P.

Many of my doctors and teachers confronted my parents for abusing me physically and emotionally, and my folks always behaved so over the top, that the docs and teachers backed down, or were afraid to bring it up again. They followed clues like I would flinch when they touched me on the shoulder, or they extended their hand to shake my hand. I wet my pants at school until I was 10 or 11 years old, and had to go home and change my pants, I was terrified of restrooms and private places.

I was always embarrassed when people looked at me, and I thought I was ugly as a child, teen, and young adult. I always hid my face and covered myself up, even though I worked out and had a decent body. Now looking back at photographs, I was a really good looking kid and young man, people used to tell me so, and I just thought they were being nice and lying to make me feel good, but a predator can make you believe everything but reality, if that gets them what they want.

When I was only 14 years old, it took a mutilation from my Dad and suicide attempt before the head of surgery at my local County Hospital finally separated me from my abusers. My Dad plead guilty to various sex offender infractions, even though he never felt that he did anything wrong. He took sex offender classes for less than a year, and was through with probation in a very short amount of time, I forget how short, but no justice was done in my case.

JP would brag that he got out of S. I feel so cheated and angry when I hear about a priest who jogged naked at night away from people, because he was fat and sweated heavily, and he was never even accused of harming another person. The judge sentenced him to 5 years probation and he must register as a Sex Offender, yet my abuser doesn't even have to register as a sex offender because his crime happened in the s before sex offender registries even existed, and was sentenced to what amounts to a joke.

That priest's sentence was too harsh, there was no victim in his case, only a cop saw him, there were no other witnesses, adult or child. I see now men who touch naked boys and don't even copulate or have penetration who get life sentences, but my Dad who sexually abused me from until , convicted in and abused me again and again after his conviction because Child Protective Services was bullied by him into giving him overnight visitation weekends with me, and even tried to approach me when I was 22 years old for the last time.

My abuser got a slap on the wrist, but predators who take pictures of little boys and don't even put their hands on them spend life behind bars, I feel like no justice was served in my case, and I am so angry that our Criminal Justice System is so skewed and so prone to corruption on the State and County level.

Every week my local news covers at least one or two stories of heinous male predators being discovered in the large metropolitan area made up of dozens of cities and towns where I live now, which stretch for miles, like one sprawling city. I used to not even be aware of local sex predators, like they were some kind of mosquito in the room I didn't notice, but now they annoy me and drive me mad every time I see one of these cases on television.

I feel like the fact that almost all of these offenders are less violent and mild in comparison to what my abuser did to me, and predators now get long life sentences, but I never saw justice in any form, handed down to my abuser. Tony is an 18 year old BOY, he is not even a man yet. Yes, what Tony did was manipulative and cruel, but I don't see him nearly the sort of threat of what most sex victims have to survive. First off, what kind of boy sends nude pictures to Kayla and Emily on Facebook, he is no innocent little pervert himself, so why paint the 31 young men as helpless victims.

If they didn't want to have sex with Anthony, they could have just said, go ahead dude, put my picture online or tell Kayla to put it on the internet, I am not gay and I don't want you to suck me off.

Those boys liked getting BJs from Tony, I think the reason one came forward was because he was jealous that Tony was sucking other dudes and not him exclusively. So I wasn't there, I know there are at least 32 sides to this story, none of which I have exclusive or partial knowledge of, but still neither do any of you. All these people are speaking out like Anthony is some crazed perverted man who threatens the safety of New Berlin Wisconsin.

All I see is an ugly young gay child who is extremely incapable of being openly gay, so lives in the closet, and tries to meet dudes on the down low. He is ugly, so he pretends to be a girl cuz no gay guys are very kind or friendly to fat boys or boys who aren't handsome and athletic, or good looking and fashionable either.

He is a confused, scared, lonely boy who used a really screwed up form of deception to meet his first sex dates, but they were teen sex dates with teen peers. This is a case of shy ugly boy tricking better looking boys into having teen curiousity sex dates and giving BJs to consenting people in his PEER group. Of course the teen boys are going to lie and say they didn't consent, when they live in a small town like New Berlin, where if parents find out their son is a fag, they send their precious "fag son" to a straight "Jesus hates fags, gonna turn you hetero one way or another boot camp.

Sometimes if he's cute I return the favor. Every High School in America has 30 fags for every kids, so I am sure that Anthony found that 30 and they were old enough to consent, he was never more than years difference in age to the peers he had sex with.

If those boys were ashamed of how they look naked and didn't want their naked bodys to be shown off, they never would have sent little Kayla and little Emily their naked photos in the first damn place. They were cocky guys that were not ashamed of showing off, or they never would have sent "Emily" pictures of themselves. Americans are so gullible and stupid, I am ashamed to be one. Yes you say, if you don't like it here then leave. The problem is, people in advanced cultures like Canada, Switzerland, Amsterdam, Australia, New Zealand, and even the UK by comparison, don't want Americans coming to their Country, and lowering the average IQ and taking jobs or disability services from their people.

Just like people here, they don't like outsiders either. I worked my ass off for 16 years as a taxpayer working 18 hours a day, 7 days a week, so I am not ashamed to be collecting the SSDI insurance I paid into all my life, especially how my government and legislative and criminal justice systems have failed to serve me with justice during the best years of my life which are now over.

He is a boy, a child, my question is, who abused and molested Anthony, in order to teach him these predatory practices? When a child behaves in this way, it is usually learned by a more experienced adult and culpable predator. Anthony may be the monster you people paint him out to be, but unless you see all the evidence and know Anthony yourself in person, you are not qualified to make that judgment about him.

From the victim of the sickest sexual predator you will ever meet or hear about, myself, trust me, you aren't qualified to make that judgment. My adopted father was the type of pedophile that other pedophiles hate and would murder, because he gives even pedophiles a bad name.

Don't you people realize that the typical profile of a NAMBLA member is a heterosexual identifying male, married with children, a gun owning member of the NRA or the GOA, votes Republican, hates gays, and is a fanatical member of their community's most prolific Christian church.

They just think that if they keep their love for young boys, usually boys without puberty characteristics below the ages of 14 to 12, they aren't reaally gay but just a straight guy with the urge to torture children, they prefer boys rather than girls, force them to have sex, and then kill them.

There is not love in their game, they are dangerous and strangely are able to conduct themselves as respected and successful members of the communities they live in. They harm their victims less for the sex, and more for the power and torture, the sex is just to degrade the victims, and the murder is the power to take the life out of something and watch it die for the entertainment they gain from the ritual.

Anthony Stancl is not like any of the people I have described as bad sexual predators here. He's a screwed up, self absorbed child, very much like most children in America, who have been told they should have a great big self esteem and over inflated egos created by their wishy washy parents who don't have the courage to raise their children with supervision and discipline, not being accountable for them at all times.

As much as my parents sucked, if I had a computer they would have known what every single file on there was, music, video, text, you name it, they would have searched it every day and limited me to using it for one hour in the family room with no privacy.

Parents don't control their kids, but then they want to treat Anthony like a predatory 50 year old pervert who took advantage of helpless children he held some great influence over.

A naked picture they took of themself? Those boys gave up their power rather easily, and I am unable to see them as helpless victims. If only that were the worst danger I ever encountered in my teenage years. I would have told Anthony if he threatened to put my naked picture on the internet, I would have busted his lip and kicked him in his nuts so he would have screamed like a girl, and said there will be much worse if he tried anything else.

Claw hammers are excellent ways to deal with fat bullies. Anthony doesn't appear to be a physical threat to any fit teen, he looks like a spoiled fat boy who can be kicked and prodded if he gets out of line. This was not the case when I was molested, again, I wish the worst I had ever encountered was that fat boy Anthony, my life would be a panacea in comparison.

To say he should get life in prison, or do any time in prison? He needs boot camp and forced labor maybe, prison, prison never rehabilitated anybody, and it never improved the lives and suffering of any victims.

If you people really cared so much about pedopohiles, you would change the laws so that there is no statute of limitations on pedophilia, and I could have my Dad charged with molesting me time and again AFTER he was finished serving his first laughable sentence for harming me, and he would go on a National Sex Offender registry now, no matter how many years it's been since he committed his crimes.

There shouldn't be an arbitrary cutoff date for sex offenders not having to register, if they committed their sex offender crime before that cutoff date. I don't see any gain in putting a little ugly fat gay boy in prison for not having proper boundaries in experimenting with teen sex, almost all but the most self-respecting teens have sex before they turn I just don't see the monster in Anthony Stancl, and I hate pedophiles with my whole heart, not teen homosexual geeks.

If he were a good looking straight boy, he would be praised for blackmailing teen girls to have sex with him, like Sebastian in "Cruel Intentions. And Gossip Girl? Nobody gets upset when the predators are "straight," only when they are "queer. Why does the newspaper characterize Anthony Stancl as a man, and the other 18 and 19 year olds as boys?

Anthony is a boy, not a man. Turning 18 makes you an 18 year old boy, not an 18 year old man. Getting a college education, working a job, taking responsibility for safe consenting sexual activity with the welfare of yourself and your partner in mind, and taking care of business makes you a man, not having a birthday 18 years after you are born.

Making babies doesn't make you a man, paying child support and respecting their mother does make you a man. I can take pride in capably doing most of the above, except for the education part, there was no money for college, but I excelled at earning money and managing people when I needed to. Even if having MS, PTSD, and bipolar is difficult, I wish for peace of mind for myself, and justice for my abuser, more than anything else.

My chances are better of winning the lottery, and I don't even play. Your issues are beyond fixable. He had anxiety over his sexual orientation, was not comfortable with it, and it ultimately ended up isolating him from the crowd.

Kuhary asked the judge for a 5-year sentence and 10 years of supervision. The longer sentence, he explained, "was driven by the sheer volume of acts. This [crime] was something that was calculated, well thought out, and ecuted over a period of a year, and it involved a number of different people.

It did. District Attorney Schimel said, "The judge said because of the elaborate nature of the manipulation punishment was important. He talked about how Stancl had some points in his favor, like his intelligence, but that he decided to use his considerable abilities for evil.

As police were investigating the bomb threat, one of Stancl's victims came forward. The case drew national media attention in part because of the Facebook aspect and the use of cell phones to send photos.

This one has just attracted a lot of attention because it's bigger than what just happened here. There are people all over the country looking at this, I hope, and questioning what are kids up to.

What are kids doing with their photo phones? What are they doing on their computers? There's been this other message beyond just dealing with the defendant and the victims. Stancl found guilty of 2 counts of sexual assault Tom Lynn. Then, as cops questioned more boys, word leaked out. Remember when Emily was asking for everybody's pictures? That wasn't Emily. That was really Tony Stancl. Tony was exceptionally cooperative with the police. He would meet detectives at Starbucks to tell them what he had done.

He expressed remorse and told police that he was bisexual and that he was uncomfortable approaching boys he was interested in at school.

He said the year before had been difficult and that he'd been teased by students who thought he was gay. When police asked Tony about the story X had told them, according to the criminal complaint, Tony "initially claimed that 'Kayla' was not him, but was a friend of his.

Finally, on February 2, Waukesha district attorney Brad Schimel announced at a press conference, broadcast live by Milwaukee's NBC affiliate, that Tony Stancl had been arrested and jailed on twelve felony charges, including possession of child pornography and sexual assault.

If convicted on all counts, he would face up to years in prison. Wired magazine posted the criminal complaint against Stancl on its Web site, and kids downloaded the document, which identified the victims by their initials and dates of birth. Then the kids went to Facebook and searched the Eisenhower network by plugging in birth dates.

Within minutes they had a full list of the names of the alleged victims, which made the story even more incredible. These were not wayward, damaged boys. They were athletes. Popular, college-bound, bright-futured kids. Boys so unimpeachably straight that there was no way you could imagine them doing the things they were supposed to have done with Tony Stancl. At the courthouse, a middle-aged secretary in the clerk's office said, "When I was in high school, boys like Tony Stancl got the crap beaten out of them.

Why didn't they beat the crap out of him? The first secretary raised her eyebrows and touched her heavy gray turtleneck. Furious at the exposure of their sons' identities, the parents of the seven boys now collectively known as "the victims" demanded an explanation from the D. How had their sons' names been made public? The answer to that question, and to so many questions about this case, was that the Web has changed everything. To protect a defendant's constitutional rights, a criminal complaint must identify the victims.

Traditionally, minors in Wisconsin have been ID'd with initials and birth dates, the D. In other ways, too, this case was unlike most high school sex scandals.

When boys are seduced by female teachers or a group of kids get caught getting naked at a Holiday Inn, envy adds some sting to the public outrage. The Stancl case was perhaps more horrifying because these boys were seduced by another boy—and because it triggered parents' preexisting fears about their kids' vulnerability to the predators they knew were lurking online. During the previous year, law-enforcement officials in at least fifteen states formally investigated teenagers for incidents of so-called sexting.

Kids use the word only when contemptuously quoting adults. But none of those stories seemed as sordid as what happened at Eisenhower. Moreover, the incident drew even more attention than it might have, because Tony was arrested the day after MySpace announced that it had banished 90, registered sex offenders from its network and piously called on Facebook to follow its lead. For talk radio, blogs, and op-ed writers, the Stancl case became the most lurid example so far of the worst possible outcome of teenagers trading naked pictures online.

Local leaders used the language of predatory terror to describe the case. The D. In New Berlin, the hysteria spiraled. Two hundred parents crowded Eisenhower's auditorium for a seminar on cybersafety the week after Tony's arrest. The school held a similar seminar the week before the arrest; two parents came to that one.

Asked to name the second -most traumatic thing that had happened at the school, the principal stared blankly and halfheartedly mumbled about a teacher who died of cancer the previous year.

Asked the same question, Ike's head counselor thought for a while and then remembered a season of suicides in the s. Seven people died, she thought, maybe eight. After agonizing over whether to talk about the case to GQ , one school employee finally justified the decision by saying, "This may ruin my career, but if I can help save just one more kid from getting ass-raped, it will be worth it.

Inside the superintendant's office in Ike's boxy brick building, two deep lines furrowed on the bridge of Kreutzer's nose when he scrunched his forehead. He asked, "Is this the Columbine of texting? A year-old female student said, "It's kinda like, you know, people will say, 'Everybody must be so devastated. The school must be so, like, ridiculous. Some who were more closely touched by Tony's actions seem astonishingly casual about the experience.

A senior boy said that he was talking with some friends about what Tony did. At the end of the conversation, one of the guys leaned over and confided, "I sent Tony naked pictures of myself.

It just seems odd that he would make that confession without any emotion, without saying how he felt about what happened. There was a very long pause, as if the boy was trying to translate his thought from one language into another. Eventually he blurted, "It would not be very much like a teenage boy to say how he was feeling. Even the core group of Tony's seven alleged sexual-assault victims are, by most accounts, coping well, though a number of them are in counseling.

Many of those who did not have girlfriends before November have girlfriends now. As one senior boy explained, "It's understandable. After something like this, most people would get a girlfriend to make themselves feel better. They may not be thinking they are proving a point, but naturally they do.

The kids' resilience raises what may be the most disturbing implication of what happened here: The phenomenon of teens trading naked pictures with one another is something they at least think they can deal with.

Brad Schimel, Waukesha County D. Tony, whose lawyer declined to comment on the case, pleaded not guilty to all charges at his arraignment in March. At press time, a trial date had not been set. None of the seven alleged victims indicate any willingness to take the stand, though, and Schimel would like to avoid making them testify.

Most people in New Berlin would probably prefer a plea bargain to a trial. Says Michael Fesenmaier, "We just want to get back to normal. But what does normal even look like anymore? The Stancl case, extreme as it is, offers an unsettling answer: What happened here is shocking because it was not all that shocking. In the beginning, when Kayla and Emily asked these boys for naked pictures, the majority of them thought little of saying yes.